Ahh, relationship choices...
- Do you want a partner, feel anxious, unsure if you want to keep the relationship you have - or struggle to let go of that one person?
- Do you feel like you keep ending up in similar situations and don't know how to change that?
- Or do you find yourself in a (potential) relationship that got you wondering "What did I get myself into here?"
Then you're likely experiencing emotional and physical distress. You probably worry, are feeling tense, or have trouble sleeping. Whatever it is, it doesn't feel good and it occupies your mind.
Luckily, there's a way to resolve that! Research shows that talking about it can make a big difference!
There is a catch, however. Just as avoiding the topic won't get you unstuck, repeating the same cycle of analysis (let's call it 'obsessive', shall we? ;)) doesn't help either.
That's why, even though you talk about it with friends and they try their very best, it can still feel like you're not really getting anywhere. Despite making radical changes at times, you find yourself recurrently encountering the same barriers and pitfalls.
Perhaps you even suddenly notice that you've just been walking where others told you to walk... and have no idea which direction you actually want to go!
In that case, it helps to look at your relationship path from different perspectives. To explore it - just like you would with your career path for example.
First and foremost, to gain insight into where you are currently.
To identify patterns that have brought you to this point, and look at them from multiple angles (in technical terms: to 'triangulate').
To learn to navigate from within yourself, and know when to seek assistance to deal with barriers and pitfalls when needed.
And - quite importantly - to clarify where you actually want to travel, so you can confidently adjust your path in that direction, even in the face of uncertainty.
Are you looking for someone to help you with that?
Someone that makes you feel safe, heard, understood and supported, so that you no longer stand alone on your personal journey of discovering what (and who) truly fits you?
Someone who is both educated and experienced in relationship dynamics, who is non-judgmental and non-dogmatic -even if you find a topic weird yourself-, and who truly listens?
And are you motivated and willing to honestly examine yourself and your unique relationship path, to learn to navigate it and find your way?
If so, I would love to work with you.